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Friday, 28 March 2014
What is CAESAR doing when he 3 - 4 months old?
After Caesar knows where to pee & poo at the pee tray, we start to teach him the command of " Sit ", "Stay", "Wait", "OK" which applies to his feeding method. From the beginning, we feed him three times per day (morning 7 a.m, afternoon 3 p.m and dinner 7 p.m). The morning one is OK but until afternoon, we used the automatic pets food feeding to feed him, he will poo after having his food and then poo within an hour, and before we come home he will eat the poo on the floor. *headache*
After several occasion, we noticed that Caesar loves a clean environment, so once he poo at the pee tray he will not go to the pee tray to pee but he will pee at another place, he'll eat his own poo because as a puppy, his digestive system is not fully build yet, thus not all the food being digested and those undigested ones will be release in his poo, thus his poo contains the smell of his food so he will eat and doesn't know that's poo. So, we decided to change his food feeding from twice per days instead of three times per days. In the afternoon, we feed him dessert like cake, banana or apple. *cake is bought from pet shop*
We told our friends that our puppy will eat his poo, she borrows us a product called S.E.P, which is a powder form, smell like mint flavor and use to add a teaspoon onto his food for him to eat. This product will make his poo become bitter thus dogs dislike that kind of smell and won't eat it. We used it from mid February till now and so far so good, it's really work for Caesar. So far until now we didn't see him eat his poo again and leave it there but we don't know what'll going happen if we leave his poo for few hours? would he eat? we don't know but what we know is that he will not touch his poo for about an hour or two, he just leave it there, however we unsure if he will eat it if left unclean for hours.
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| This is the product our friends borrow to us. |
How do we train Caesar the command of "Sit", "Stay", "Wait" and "OK"?
Caesar is very good boy and we don't really spend a lot of time to train him hard. When he sees us holding his food he will automatically sit and we just give him a "sit" command. Then after we put down his food on the floor, of cause he will go and eat when we put it down, so what we do? we take away his food and give him "sit" command, then "stay" command - using hand, then ask him to "wait" command, and when we give him "OK" command, we push him to the food, so he knows that "OK" is mean you can eat now...
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| The cute cakes and bread we bought for him from the pets shop (Pets Lover at Vivo City) |
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| Sit, Stay & Wait |
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| "OK" to eat |
This is how we train him the 4 commands.
After he get used to the 4 commands, we start to leash him at home. Let him to familiar with the leash so that we can bring him out to the park. Of cause he struggle and hate the leash until now he still don't like the leash. Nowadays, we put on the leash on his body just let him familiar himself with it, and then after we only bring him out once he cool down. We brought him to the dog park near our house. It's he first time to go outside at the park and also is our first time to bring a puppy to the park too. We were worry and thinking what is he action the first time outing and will he scared? or will he just haul?
No hauling but just scared... but we still ask him to walk and encourage him with a treat.. so he walks until tired we find a place to sit. These are the pictures we took him..
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| What so happening there? What's that? |
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| Are you taking my picture? *smell my camera* |
We rest about half an hour, he likes getting used to it. And finally he lets me taking his picture with a side face big smile and the sitting position with his handsome face.
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| my side face - big smile |
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| my handsome face^^ |
After that, we bring him to the dog run, released his leash and let him run and play with his friends. These are the pictures that he plays with his new friends - ♥ His first meeting new friends ♥
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| Let's go together |
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| Tired |
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| Where'r you going? |
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| Run away ~ |
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| What's happening there? |
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| Run together with Mummy |
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| Run~ Run ~ Run |
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| I want to drink water, Mummy~! |
The below pictures taken when he is 4 months old, we bring him to East Coast Park beach side. The first time he went to the beach. Look at him, he had so much fun at the beach but he also scared the sound of wave hitting on the shores, he don't dare to go near to the sea, so he just play on the sand.
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| My Favorite Bone~! |
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| So nice to be here! |
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| HeiHei |
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| huh?!?! |
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| mmmm... I love the wind~ |
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| take picture for my memory |
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| my selfie ~ a bit blur |
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| Yeah~! |
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| I'm so happy today! |
Another weekend, we bring him to the same park again near our house,
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| Hi~ pretty~ |
End of the today post, It's time to say goodnight and sweet dreams~
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| Good night~! |
Wednesday, 19 March 2014
CAESAR - Potty Training
19 January 2014, the first day Caesar at our new home with us in the afternoon. First thing, we have to do with him is let him adapt to the place that we prepared for him. Caesar doesn't look like he scared in the stranger place. He looks like already familiar with us and the place. I think because we always visit him when he still at the pet shop. So, he familiar with us.
And, we gonna potty train him. This is the first thing we have to train him to pee on the pee tray we bought for him- orange color from Pets Station and with pee pad in the pee tray.
Caesar is still a puppy so he physically can't hold his pee beyond an hour for each month of their age. So, after he drank water about half an hour he will pee on the floor. And we need to clean the pee on the floor and teach him where should he to pee... We used the Training Pad to absorb his pee and put it in the Tray.. After the training pad absorbed his pee, we bring it close to his nose for him to smell, and in the same time we tell him that " I want you to pee here" (bring him to the place where we want him to pee) although he doesn't know what are we saying but he can feel what we want him to do.
But of cause he sometimes pee to the right place and sometimes pee to the wrong place (on the floor), and we went to the Pets Lovers center to buy a BYOPET spray (recommended by the staff) that can remove the odor of the pee and poo on the floor.
This is the one we bought it and at the same time we also seek advice from our friend, how does he toilet train his dog.. And he told us not to throw away the pad immediately and let the tray absorbed the smell his pee & poo but he is using the "kitchen towels" to absorb his dog pee & poo.
And we did it, we used our Training Pad to absorb his pee & used the Kitchen Towels to clean his poo. We used the Pad to absorb the pee & the smell of the poo inside the tray for a day, didn't throw away.. So, when he pee & poo inside the tray, we praised him & give him a treat to let him know he is doing the right thing. Slowly he began to understand pee & poo in the pee tray, reducing the treat for him.
Finally, after 3 days, he always pee & poo inside the tray but sometimes he will forgotten and miss-Q (pee on the floor) then we scolded him.. We are so happy that he knew where to pee and poo and reduce our work to clean the floor and the smell.... Now, we throw away the Pee Pad when the pad is full.. =)
More exciting things is that he knows the potty instructions we gives him. e.g. Pee is "shee shee", Poo is "poo poo". When we want him to go pee, we just give him instruction - "go shee shee", it's very exciting when he follows our instruction to go to the tray pee & poo.
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And, we gonna potty train him. This is the first thing we have to train him to pee on the pee tray we bought for him- orange color from Pets Station and with pee pad in the pee tray.
Caesar is still a puppy so he physically can't hold his pee beyond an hour for each month of their age. So, after he drank water about half an hour he will pee on the floor. And we need to clean the pee on the floor and teach him where should he to pee... We used the Training Pad to absorb his pee and put it in the Tray.. After the training pad absorbed his pee, we bring it close to his nose for him to smell, and in the same time we tell him that " I want you to pee here" (bring him to the place where we want him to pee) although he doesn't know what are we saying but he can feel what we want him to do.
But of cause he sometimes pee to the right place and sometimes pee to the wrong place (on the floor), and we went to the Pets Lovers center to buy a BYOPET spray (recommended by the staff) that can remove the odor of the pee and poo on the floor.
This is the one we bought it and at the same time we also seek advice from our friend, how does he toilet train his dog.. And he told us not to throw away the pad immediately and let the tray absorbed the smell his pee & poo but he is using the "kitchen towels" to absorb his dog pee & poo.
And we did it, we used our Training Pad to absorb his pee & used the Kitchen Towels to clean his poo. We used the Pad to absorb the pee & the smell of the poo inside the tray for a day, didn't throw away.. So, when he pee & poo inside the tray, we praised him & give him a treat to let him know he is doing the right thing. Slowly he began to understand pee & poo in the pee tray, reducing the treat for him.
Finally, after 3 days, he always pee & poo inside the tray but sometimes he will forgotten and miss-Q (pee on the floor) then we scolded him.. We are so happy that he knew where to pee and poo and reduce our work to clean the floor and the smell.... Now, we throw away the Pee Pad when the pad is full.. =)
More exciting things is that he knows the potty instructions we gives him. e.g. Pee is "shee shee", Poo is "poo poo". When we want him to go pee, we just give him instruction - "go shee shee", it's very exciting when he follows our instruction to go to the tray pee & poo.
Saturday, 8 March 2014
人的一生中里有三件事不能等
人的一生中应该要怎么过？然而，人的一生中寻找的却是何物呢？从1岁开始学会趴、走、跳直到上课，到毕业，出来社会工作，你有答案了吗？你的一生中需要的是何物呢？
不管你有了答案或者是没有答案，或是不知道自己的一生要怎么过，还是说，你不知道你一生中寻找的是何物？但，现在有三件事是你一生中是不能等，是你一生中必须知道的事。
那就是，第一 [贫穷]
贫穷是不能等的，一旦时间久了，你就会习惯贫穷的日子，之后随着年龄的成长你不但无法突破自我，也甚至抹杀了自己的梦想，而庸庸碌碌的这样过一辈子，所以，趁年轻时期，好好的打拼突破自我，让自己的生活过的舒适、健康而且也幸福的日子。
第二 [梦想]
每一个人都有自己的梦想，而且随着不同的年龄阶段也会有不一样的梦想。因为人生里会有不同的阶段，不同的历练，不同的遭遇，以及不同的想法。如果20岁时的梦想是在60岁的时候才得以实现的话，那会是个怎么样的情况？比如说，20岁时的梦想是想当一名歌手，然而为畏缩缩的情况下，不敢踏出一步参加任何的歌唱比赛，或者是表演，埋没了自己的梦想，直到了60岁的时候，才回想起当年的梦想，想要去实现，当你要实现当年年轻的梦想的时候，恐怕已经是心有余而力不足了吧~ 所以，梦想是不能够等待的，拥有梦想的你，要赶快的趁年轻敢敢的踏出一步，实现自己的梦想吧~ 因梦想不等人~
第三 [家人]
家人是我们唯一最亲的人，唯一有血缘关系，自小一起长大，和父母亲一起生活的家人。家人是不能够等，或许我们现在还很年轻，未来里还有很多时间足够可以让我们摸索、打拼、但是家人是否还有这些时间等我们成功、等我们赚大钱让他们过上好日子，也让他们以我们为荣吗？所谓：“树欲静而风不止，子欲养而亲不待。” - 这是很多人都会痛，也是很多人会一辈子的遗憾。 所以，有时间多多陪陪你最亲的人吧~ 好好的爱他们吧~
结尾，人的上半生是要不犹豫；人的下半生是要不后悔当初的选择与决定和犹豫。所以，好好的规划自己的人生，也好好的珍惜时间以及身边的人。这应该是人生里必修的一堂课~
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不管你有了答案或者是没有答案，或是不知道自己的一生要怎么过，还是说，你不知道你一生中寻找的是何物？但，现在有三件事是你一生中是不能等，是你一生中必须知道的事。
那就是，第一 [贫穷]
贫穷是不能等的，一旦时间久了，你就会习惯贫穷的日子，之后随着年龄的成长你不但无法突破自我，也甚至抹杀了自己的梦想，而庸庸碌碌的这样过一辈子，所以，趁年轻时期，好好的打拼突破自我，让自己的生活过的舒适、健康而且也幸福的日子。
第二 [梦想]
每一个人都有自己的梦想，而且随着不同的年龄阶段也会有不一样的梦想。因为人生里会有不同的阶段，不同的历练，不同的遭遇，以及不同的想法。如果20岁时的梦想是在60岁的时候才得以实现的话，那会是个怎么样的情况？比如说，20岁时的梦想是想当一名歌手，然而为畏缩缩的情况下，不敢踏出一步参加任何的歌唱比赛，或者是表演，埋没了自己的梦想，直到了60岁的时候，才回想起当年的梦想，想要去实现，当你要实现当年年轻的梦想的时候，恐怕已经是心有余而力不足了吧~ 所以，梦想是不能够等待的，拥有梦想的你，要赶快的趁年轻敢敢的踏出一步，实现自己的梦想吧~ 因梦想不等人~
第三 [家人]
家人是我们唯一最亲的人，唯一有血缘关系，自小一起长大，和父母亲一起生活的家人。家人是不能够等，或许我们现在还很年轻，未来里还有很多时间足够可以让我们摸索、打拼、但是家人是否还有这些时间等我们成功、等我们赚大钱让他们过上好日子，也让他们以我们为荣吗？所谓：“树欲静而风不止，子欲养而亲不待。” - 这是很多人都会痛，也是很多人会一辈子的遗憾。 所以，有时间多多陪陪你最亲的人吧~ 好好的爱他们吧~
结尾，人的上半生是要不犹豫；人的下半生是要不后悔当初的选择与决定和犹豫。所以，好好的规划自己的人生，也好好的珍惜时间以及身边的人。这应该是人生里必修的一堂课~
Saturday, 1 March 2014
A Man Behind of Silence 男人沉默的背后
作者：来源：网络文章
越来越多的女人，越来越搞不明白，无论是热恋阶段，还是初婚时期的那个男人，他的语言细胞曾经是多么的发达：一个小时前他见你口若悬河地诉说相思，一个小时后再见你依然滔滔不绝地表达着爱恋…… 你头上飘落下一片树叶，他会像吟诗一般声情并茂感慨万千；你一句无关痛痒的“有家真好”的感叹，他会妙语连珠地与你畅谈几个小时……如今，这是怎么了？结婚才几年啊，他竟成了“闷罐子”。有人说：男人是行动型的动物。
那么，男人沉默的背后究竟意味着什么呢？
英国社会学家马克经过调查发现：男人每天的说话量，是女人的一半。
但男人们也大多用于朋友圈中、工作中，而与爱人的聊天交流，每天可能不足15分钟，用词量不超过10%。
其实，男人有很多缄默的方法，每一种都可能是一次推心置腹的心灵对话的开始。前提是，你要知道他们真正想说什么，然后采取相应的对策。
用沉默来抗议絮叨
女人喜欢通过谈话来建立关系、巩固关系，在家里则喜欢通过絮叨来显示自己的领导地位，表达对男人的关心。男人则不这么想，无论他婚前多么能说会道、口吐莲花，婚后的男人更愿意直接说出自己的具体愿望，比如“今晚想和你一起出去吃饭”、“我想休息”、“我要开会了”。
然而，女人受不了了，男人越是这样，女人越是有话要说。许多时候，因为女人的絮叨，家里与外面喧嚣的天空别无二致。男人这时候往往比女人显得更理性，面对女人的絮叨，他不会直接反驳——那无疑是在家里投下一枚炸弹;他也不会粗暴呵斥——那无疑是事倍功半的困兽犹斗。
许多男人习惯选择沉默，一方面是用沉默来表达自己当时的情绪、思想和态度，另一方面就是故意以沉默来保持彼此的距离，女人会为此感到特别受伤。对此，女人往往会说“他们没有感情，简直冷血”，这其实是一个误解。婚后的男人更习惯于用心去交流他们的情感 和爱慕。女人絮叨得越厉害，男人会离你越远，虽然他沉默不语，但心里已竖起一道“防护墙”。
用沉默来调理身心
男孩从小就接受着征服世界、顶天立地、承担责任之类的“脊梁”教育：当他们成-人后，无论面对多么无奈的疲惫，多么艰难的挫折，多么残酷的打击，多么沉重的负担，多么巨大的压力……他们都不能像女人那样可以通过哭来宣泄，通过眼泪冲刷，通过倾诉排遣。
他们唯一能做的，只有沉默。在沉默中反思，在沉默中调理，在沉默中蓄势，在沉默中舔吮伤口。
因此，当男人拖着沉重的脚步回到家，当他坐在沙发上一言不发，当他对你的话语置若罔闻时，你千万别颐指气使、无事生非、浮想联翩，甚至耳提面命。说不定，他刚刚结束与客户的谈话精疲力尽，或者正面临人生事业的蹭蹬，备感伤害困顿疲乏。这时，他沉默是为了休养生息，他是在沉默中获得新生。这时你不妨给他一个小时的时间，让他和白天的工作彻底说“再见”，之后，他可能会对你的任何问题表现出惊人的兴趣。
这里特别提醒一点，当男人身心疲倦时，如果他还有兴趣看电视，那么千万不要在他看新闻联播时关掉电视机，然后关切地说：“累了，就早点休息吧，还看什么电视呢。”须知，事业型的男人大都对政治比较关心，你这种“关心呵护”只能适得其反。但你可以在广告节目的空档中适量插入点安慰的话。
用沉默来运筹帷幄
你常常会发现自己熟悉的那个男人，说着笑着，突然沉默起来；家里热着闹着，他却坐在沙发上发呆；你热情洋溢地向他抛过去一串话，他竟毫无知觉。
其实这个时候，沉默发呆只是男人的外表神情，说不定他的头脑里正想什么稀奇古怪的点子，或在思考某些古怪的问题，或者什么事触发了他的灵感。在他进入沉默的思索状态时，那是一种类似于“闭关修炼”的境界。
他们不希望任何人把他从思索的状态中拉出来，更不希望有人打断或扰乱他在沉默中“修炼”。如果这时，你忍不住好奇冲动或者关心使然，向他提这样或那样的问题，比如，你正在想什么，说出来我帮你参谋参谋？或者你有什么话要说啊？你听到我的问话了吗？无异于自讨没趣。
在男人们看来，这时候所有关心的、体贴的、善意的、好奇的问话，全如嗡嗡飞舞的苍蝇一样，扰人清静。这时，你就不妨当一个默默不语的随从吧。而你适时提供的轻松氛围，不仅会使他的沉默时间大大缩短，而且会让他对你感激不已。
用沉默来珍藏私密
有时，男人会在紧急情况下编个谎言，有时则会想尽办法隐瞒些什么，好比前天晚上喝了几瓶啤酒，出差途中发生了一段艳遇，刚拿了一笔额外奖金等等。男人的设想是，只要不说，女人没发觉，一切就会很简单。而有时，男人的沉默是另一种隐瞒。他可能认为女人过于专-制，干涉了他的自由和权利，她甚至会专-制地安排他的日常生活。所以，为了防止女人打破砂锅问到底，防止她对他的透明控制和监督，他就选择了沉默。没有了蛛丝马迹的追寻，他的世界就可以清静很多。
在夫妻双方的交流中，如果产生了什么禁忌性的问题，那么彼此的感情危机就多了几分可能。比如，当你反复地与他讨论近来的性欲 强弱问题、感情冷淡问题、忠诚问题、奖金问题等等时，他心里明镜似的，知道言多必失的厉害，但他更知道不能把这种反感说出来，神情中更不能流露出来，于是，便用沉默来防患未然。
男人总是很小心，并尽可能避免暴露自己的弱点，尤其是在危机情况下，男人会极度自我封闭。如果女人在这个时候唠叨不休，男人会更加生气。而对于过去的恋情、性等敏感话题，男人往往出于善意而沉默，因为男人也需要安全感，希望取得保障，梦想在女人面前展现最完美的自己。
男人需要伪装
与此同时，男性 心理研究 者指出：男人的世界充满竞争，这就要求距离、假面具和算计。男人的生存面临着女人无法想象的残酷挑战，孤独在所难免。
而女人会觉得，男人的心里一定藏着很多秘密 ，于是，好奇心不断推进挖掘的深度。
但要让一个男人在沉默时敞开心扉，首先是要给他一种安全感，即你在任何时候，都不会利用他的弱点。你可以利用女性 的那种热情来抚慰他。你也可以安安静静地听他叙述，尽可能客观评价，并和他一起寻求解决方法。
其实，男人总有潜在的自大倾向，只要他有足够的观众，他就会表现得极有魅力、健谈，并充满兴趣。所以，如果要缓和彼此的冰冻气氛，你可以考虑和他一起去酒吧或者茶馆。因为在那里，他可以找到使他兴奋的公众。要么就和别人一起做点事，比如约人一起看电视、逛街，当他发觉本该属于自己的地位受到威胁之后，他肯定会主动来找你破解僵局。
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越来越多的女人，越来越搞不明白，无论是热恋阶段，还是初婚时期的那个男人，他的语言细胞曾经是多么的发达：一个小时前他见你口若悬河地诉说相思，一个小时后再见你依然滔滔不绝地表达着爱恋…… 你头上飘落下一片树叶，他会像吟诗一般声情并茂感慨万千；你一句无关痛痒的“有家真好”的感叹，他会妙语连珠地与你畅谈几个小时……如今，这是怎么了？结婚才几年啊，他竟成了“闷罐子”。有人说：男人是行动型的动物。
那么，男人沉默的背后究竟意味着什么呢？
英国社会学家马克经过调查发现：男人每天的说话量，是女人的一半。
但男人们也大多用于朋友圈中、工作中，而与爱人的聊天交流，每天可能不足15分钟，用词量不超过10%。
其实，男人有很多缄默的方法，每一种都可能是一次推心置腹的心灵对话的开始。前提是，你要知道他们真正想说什么，然后采取相应的对策。
用沉默来抗议絮叨
女人喜欢通过谈话来建立关系、巩固关系，在家里则喜欢通过絮叨来显示自己的领导地位，表达对男人的关心。男人则不这么想，无论他婚前多么能说会道、口吐莲花，婚后的男人更愿意直接说出自己的具体愿望，比如“今晚想和你一起出去吃饭”、“我想休息”、“我要开会了”。
然而，女人受不了了，男人越是这样，女人越是有话要说。许多时候，因为女人的絮叨，家里与外面喧嚣的天空别无二致。男人这时候往往比女人显得更理性，面对女人的絮叨，他不会直接反驳——那无疑是在家里投下一枚炸弹;他也不会粗暴呵斥——那无疑是事倍功半的困兽犹斗。
许多男人习惯选择沉默，一方面是用沉默来表达自己当时的情绪、思想和态度，另一方面就是故意以沉默来保持彼此的距离，女人会为此感到特别受伤。对此，女人往往会说“他们没有感情，简直冷血”，这其实是一个误解。婚后的男人更习惯于用心去交流他们的情感 和爱慕。女人絮叨得越厉害，男人会离你越远，虽然他沉默不语，但心里已竖起一道“防护墙”。
用沉默来调理身心
男孩从小就接受着征服世界、顶天立地、承担责任之类的“脊梁”教育：当他们成-人后，无论面对多么无奈的疲惫，多么艰难的挫折，多么残酷的打击，多么沉重的负担，多么巨大的压力……他们都不能像女人那样可以通过哭来宣泄，通过眼泪冲刷，通过倾诉排遣。
他们唯一能做的，只有沉默。在沉默中反思，在沉默中调理，在沉默中蓄势，在沉默中舔吮伤口。
因此，当男人拖着沉重的脚步回到家，当他坐在沙发上一言不发，当他对你的话语置若罔闻时，你千万别颐指气使、无事生非、浮想联翩，甚至耳提面命。说不定，他刚刚结束与客户的谈话精疲力尽，或者正面临人生事业的蹭蹬，备感伤害困顿疲乏。这时，他沉默是为了休养生息，他是在沉默中获得新生。这时你不妨给他一个小时的时间，让他和白天的工作彻底说“再见”，之后，他可能会对你的任何问题表现出惊人的兴趣。
这里特别提醒一点，当男人身心疲倦时，如果他还有兴趣看电视，那么千万不要在他看新闻联播时关掉电视机，然后关切地说：“累了，就早点休息吧，还看什么电视呢。”须知，事业型的男人大都对政治比较关心，你这种“关心呵护”只能适得其反。但你可以在广告节目的空档中适量插入点安慰的话。
用沉默来运筹帷幄
你常常会发现自己熟悉的那个男人，说着笑着，突然沉默起来；家里热着闹着，他却坐在沙发上发呆；你热情洋溢地向他抛过去一串话，他竟毫无知觉。
其实这个时候，沉默发呆只是男人的外表神情，说不定他的头脑里正想什么稀奇古怪的点子，或在思考某些古怪的问题，或者什么事触发了他的灵感。在他进入沉默的思索状态时，那是一种类似于“闭关修炼”的境界。
他们不希望任何人把他从思索的状态中拉出来，更不希望有人打断或扰乱他在沉默中“修炼”。如果这时，你忍不住好奇冲动或者关心使然，向他提这样或那样的问题，比如，你正在想什么，说出来我帮你参谋参谋？或者你有什么话要说啊？你听到我的问话了吗？无异于自讨没趣。
在男人们看来，这时候所有关心的、体贴的、善意的、好奇的问话，全如嗡嗡飞舞的苍蝇一样，扰人清静。这时，你就不妨当一个默默不语的随从吧。而你适时提供的轻松氛围，不仅会使他的沉默时间大大缩短，而且会让他对你感激不已。
用沉默来珍藏私密
有时，男人会在紧急情况下编个谎言，有时则会想尽办法隐瞒些什么，好比前天晚上喝了几瓶啤酒，出差途中发生了一段艳遇，刚拿了一笔额外奖金等等。男人的设想是，只要不说，女人没发觉，一切就会很简单。而有时，男人的沉默是另一种隐瞒。他可能认为女人过于专-制，干涉了他的自由和权利，她甚至会专-制地安排他的日常生活。所以，为了防止女人打破砂锅问到底，防止她对他的透明控制和监督，他就选择了沉默。没有了蛛丝马迹的追寻，他的世界就可以清静很多。
在夫妻双方的交流中，如果产生了什么禁忌性的问题，那么彼此的感情危机就多了几分可能。比如，当你反复地与他讨论近来的性欲 强弱问题、感情冷淡问题、忠诚问题、奖金问题等等时，他心里明镜似的，知道言多必失的厉害，但他更知道不能把这种反感说出来，神情中更不能流露出来，于是，便用沉默来防患未然。
男人总是很小心，并尽可能避免暴露自己的弱点，尤其是在危机情况下，男人会极度自我封闭。如果女人在这个时候唠叨不休，男人会更加生气。而对于过去的恋情、性等敏感话题，男人往往出于善意而沉默，因为男人也需要安全感，希望取得保障，梦想在女人面前展现最完美的自己。
男人需要伪装
与此同时，男性 心理研究 者指出：男人的世界充满竞争，这就要求距离、假面具和算计。男人的生存面临着女人无法想象的残酷挑战，孤独在所难免。
而女人会觉得，男人的心里一定藏着很多秘密 ，于是，好奇心不断推进挖掘的深度。
但要让一个男人在沉默时敞开心扉，首先是要给他一种安全感，即你在任何时候，都不会利用他的弱点。你可以利用女性 的那种热情来抚慰他。你也可以安安静静地听他叙述，尽可能客观评价，并和他一起寻求解决方法。
其实，男人总有潜在的自大倾向，只要他有足够的观众，他就会表现得极有魅力、健谈，并充满兴趣。所以，如果要缓和彼此的冰冻气氛，你可以考虑和他一起去酒吧或者茶馆。因为在那里，他可以找到使他兴奋的公众。要么就和别人一起做点事，比如约人一起看电视、逛街，当他发觉本该属于自己的地位受到威胁之后，他肯定会主动来找你破解僵局。
照片来源： Google Image
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